Some people shouldn't go to church, pt. 1: Crabby is not a fruit of the Spirit

After following Jesus for over 30 years now, I have come to the conclusion that there are some people who do great damage to the cause of Christ because they continue to come to church week after week. I have no idea what they are hearing in their various churches, but their behavior, based on what is on display in the restaurants they frequent immediately after their church experience, is exactly the opposite of the attitude of Jesus as described in the Gospels. 
 
No doubt you have seen this behavior yourself. As a 5-year veteran professional waiter at a number of restaurants, I can describe this “breed” of people.  They aren’t new to the religious scene by any means. Jesus dealt with these sorts of people constantly in his day to day encounters. In our day, as in his day, we have placed so much emphasis on correct beliefs, that correct living has been nearly completely overlooked. Yet Jesus made it very clear that true spirituality isn’t just belief, but lifestyle. “When I was thirsty you gave me drink, when I was hungry you gave me to eat, when I was lonely you visited me…”  Seeing a need and meeting it.  No smugness.  No “better than” attitude.  “Crabby” is not a fruit of the Spirit.